You Are a Writer ~ Pick Yourself
Guest post by Lorna Faith
Today’s post is a bit different. I am turning over my blog to fellow author, blogger and friend, Lorna Faith.
I’m excited to have Lorna Faith as my guest today sharing her journey as a writer, and sharing information about an upcoming opportunity for writers. Please welcome Lorna Faith!
Writing is a Gift, Not a Curse
by Lorna Faith
Writing is a gift so mysterious and wonderful, that it baffles us in its simplicity. It creates longings so deep that inspires and stirs our soul. It gives us clarity about who we are and how we fit into a much bigger story. It pulls at us, compelling us to tell our own stories as we connect with others.
I’ve been teased by writing’s crooked finger ever since I was a little girl. Writing told me come here there’s so much more I need to tell you. I willingly followed that sultry voice that drew me deeper into the secret imaginings of yet another story.
I first knew the secret delights of hearing a story, when my mom would pull up a chair at night and sit on a creaky wooden chair in the hallway between the two room where us four kids slept. She would read and I would listen intently and tried so hard to stay awake until the words ‘the end’ were spoken, but often falling asleep before.
I began to tell stories by speaking them. When I went with our dog Barney to chase the cows home for milking time, I would tell the cows stories as I walked back to the barn. I was happy to learn to read and write because it meant I could read and imagine more stories.
Crushed Dreams
However, something stopped my excitement for stories. Words spoken to me caused me to see writing as a curse, rather than a gift I’d been given.
When my grade four teacher said my handwriting was awful and sent me home everyday after school to learn to write better, I began to believe that I wasn’t good at writing.
I started to think of stories as something that I could only tell my animal friends, but I couldn’t write down stories because I wasn’t good at writing. Didn’t I have someone in authority who confirmed that?
Looking back, I realize how silly that was. But the fear of not being good enough to write combined with someone who confirming those thoughts, was very real. It caused me to NOT pick myself.
I began to believe that for me, writing was not a gift. It was a curse. In fact, it was something that I loved, but could only ever be teased with, because storytelling was something that I couldn’t do.
So I shut that part of myself off. I gave up on the dream of writing. It wasn’t until I was in my mid-thirties, when I was homeschooling our four munchkins, that the dream returned.
Dreaming Once Again
However the dream didn’t come back to me alone. Standing right beside my dream… was fear. I went round and round in my mind, toying with my old dream. It was like holding forget-me-not flowers in my hands, pulling off each petal saying she loves writing; she loves it not.
After weeks of mentally pulling off a flower petal for each day, I ended up with ‘she loves writing.’ But a part of me held back, saying we’ll see. I guess you can try. I ended up writing part of a story.
For the next few years I dabbled here and there, the dream growing subtly stronger every year. However, fear of going all in, still held me back.
It wasn’t until eight years later, after getting to know some mentors online, bloggers, podcasters and other writers, that I had a revelation.
I realized for the first time since I was a little girl, that writing was a gift. I saw the lie I believed for so many years and chose to reject that untruth and believe the truth instead.
Writing and storytelling wasn’t a curse, but a blessing.
As I went to the page, everyday a little fearful, writing soon got a little easier. Telling a story became something delicious and satisfying once more.
I began to experience firsthand the magic of an early morning spent with my fingers flying across the keyboard while the rest of the world lay sleeping.
I learned about undiscovered territory and mysteries as my imagination worked overtime, spoon-feeding me new plot lines and mysterious characters.
For me this was like opening a beautiful new world. I was hooked.
Give Your Writing Dreams Another Chance
Maybe you had a bad beginning where something someone said spoke death to your dreams and it stopped you from writing. Maybe like me, you began to see writing as a curse and not a gift. Maybe you’ve lived in fear of really going! all in.!
If that’s you, I want to encourage you today. Give your writing dreams another chance. Open your mind and heart to it’s possibilities.
Yes, there will be resistance that tries it’s hardest to stop you from creating anything. Suddenly you’ll be at the blank page and you’ll feel like you need to clean the house, fix tea or do anything else but write. I’ve experienced that a lot.
However, you’ll soon begin to realize the rewards writing creates, in return for your loyalty.
You’ll get a deeper sense that writing is your gateway to an unexplored land.
There is space. Space to breathe. Space to create. Space to try new things. There is room to explore the inner workings of your heart and mind before the wolves of the day appear, snarling and starved.
Early mornings is your secret cave. Writing is what holds the key to it’s mysteries.
The gifts writing offers are many:
- It gives you clarity on your vision and dreams.
- A new realization of how creativity fills your soul and adds to your life.
- Understanding your authentic voice and the fuller picture of who you are.
- !The beauty of inspiring others through your words.
I hope you will give yourself a chance to unwrap this gift. That you’ll see it through fresh eyes and allow yourself to dream again of new horizons and possibilities.
If you are someone whose dreams of writing have been crushed, I would love to help inspire you to dream again. I know much of the fear, doubt and insecurity you’re feeling. I’ve been there.
I would love to show you how you can unlock your authentic writing voice, write and publish your book in my upcoming Webinar. If you can’t make it to the Webinar, you could always add your name to get FREE updates and receive a discount for the online course I’m creating on how to Write and Publish Your First Book.
Scribbling words onto the page is a gift. It’s a present you get to unwrap every morning before the sun comes up and in the quiet hours of a late evening. A gift to be shared with the world.
Make the choice today to take that first step. Choose to believe in you and the gift of writing you’ve been given.
Lorna loves to write romance mixed with adventure and suspense. In between teaching music during the day and listening to other people’s stories on her podcast and blogging, she scribbles on her next fiction book. Helping writers to step past resistance to get their stories into the world, is one of her big passions. She is inspired everyday to keep writing by her husband who loves all art forms, and her fun-loving teenagers from whom she gets many ideas. you can connect with Lorna on Facebook, Twitter, and her website.
Good morning Lorna,
Loved reading this, I can relate on a few notes, mainly I was another one of those kids that was pin pointed for terrible writing in elementary school. I remember we sent samples out and they would come back and the good ones were on the board for all to see…I remember one time, being told mine was the worst. I have remembered that all my life, of course my hand writing is no better now that I am older, thank goodness for the typewriter and now the computer. I have dreamt of being good at writing, I have tried, but I just don’t think I have it……a poem here and there I can do, but story writing, not so much, but you know what, I have been thinking I want to try again, and after reading this today, maybe it was a sign to start working at it. Thanks for sharing your story!!
Hi Barb 🙂 Thanks for sharing your story. Sorry you had to endure painful words spoken against your ability to write. I’ve heard of many people who at some point in their school years, had someone either in authority or a friend or something shoot down their writing. It’s so sad. And worse, many times it takes us years to find the courage to try writing again.
I’m glad you’ve kept writing Barb. I want to encourage you to try again. It took me almost 40 years before I was ready to try writing a story. So it’s not too late. Fall in love with the story that’s sparking your imagination – and just write them down.
Let the words come out imperfect and messy during your 1st draft.(I wanted everything perfect during the 1st draft of my 1st book and it took me twice as long to write). Just write – even if you only do 500 words a day … you’ll feel so much better, when you look back in a 30 days and see that you have 15,000 words written.
If you ever need help or encouragement to get your story written just drop me a email at lorna@lornafaith.com. I’d love to hear how it’s going.
Thanks for stopping by Barb and have a beautiful day!
Thanks Michele for inviting me onto your blog ~ this has been such fun 🙂
Thank you, Lorna. It was my pleasure to have you. Your message is inspiring.
As an elementary teacher and literacy coach, this breaks my heart, Lorna. When I work with new teachers in teaching them to be writers, I always first prompt them to write about their writing history – what was writing like for them in elementary school, middle school, high school and college. Sadly, it hasn’t changed much. We can blame teachers before us, but honestly, it’s our culture. We are taught how we were taught before us unless we break out of the cycle. The only way a teacher can see the gifts in a student’s writing is if she is a writer herself, otherwise the focus is on conventions and handwriting as it’s what the “teacher eye” can fix.
I’m so glad you were brave enough to come back to writing. It is like breathing and surely, when you rediscovered that, you felt like you had come home.
On behalf of teachers – we are sorry.
Aww Shari you have such a beautiful heart… thank you for your healing and encouraging words 🙂 Sadly, I realize that there’s been many people who have had discouraging words spoken to them about their writing – and not just from teachers.
I believe you’re right, that it is a cultural thing. Sometimes we don’t even realize we’re doing it. I agree that it does take a breaking out of the cycle, so we change how we train or teach the generation that comes after us:)
I’m happy I came back to writing too – it is like breathing and does feel like coming home.
Thanks so much for speaking your heart Shari … I’m happy you’re one of the teachers that encourages your students the joys of writing and helps to pull the gifts inside of them, out!